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I am a divorced woman in her 60s who has recently dated a couple of men in their 40s. I have always looked young and my ex-husband is much younger than me. I have never thought much about it, but now that I am getting older I think other people are becoming judg mental. The sex is great and they are not boys, so why do I feel guilty?
It is not easy to shrug off societal judgment. I suspect the people who judge you negatively would barely notice a man in his 60s with a 40-year-old woman. Is there an obvious derogatory word for an older man who dates young women? No. Ageism, hypocrisy and double standards regarding âacceptableâ partnerships abound in our society. In most cases, age differences between partners are no one elseâs business. Your best course is to ignore judgmental looks or comments â including congratulatory words that constitute veiled criticism. People who are sexually confident can attract adult partners of any age â and they have a right to feel comfortable about that.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
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